Hi. I'm a 40 ish married male living in Melbourne. My wife no longer wants sex. Actually I think she no longer wants me. I think she may be having an affair, but I'm not 100% sure. I probably should have ended this years ago, but I have kids and want them to have a father while they grow up, so I'm sort of stuck here.

I really really miss sex. I love it. It was such a big part of our relationship, but it just doesn't happen. I have tried everything I can think of to fix things between us. I do housework, make beds, do the washing and the shopping. I have read relationship books etc. I support her in everything she does. I've done everything I can think of to make her feel appreciated but nothing works.

I really hope there is someone out there who understands what I'm talking about and is in the same boat. Someone who is stuck in a sexless marriage and wants to get together every now and again for some wild sweaty monkey jungle sex. I'll try almost anything. It's been ages. If there is that one thing you have always wanted to try but have been too afraid to ask, I'm in!

I thought we could swap emails and get to know each other. Even if we just become friends, I'd love that. I am very honest (yes I see the irony) and won't mislead you.

About me? 40 (ish), medium to strong build, 5' 9", love to laugh, very private, don't drink much (don't need to :-)